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Ideas that Get Your Wedding Guests Dancing

disco balls from a wedding danceIt’s every couple’s worst nightmare: an empty dance floor. We all can see why: couples spend a lot of time planning every detail, doing everything they can do to make sure that their guests have fun. That’s why the sight of an empty dance floor can be such a letdown. It doesn’t have to be—especially if you use these tips to get your wedding guests on the dance floor (and keep them there!).

Hire a good DJ.

If you want to get your wedding guests on the floor, the logical first step is to hire a pro that has the experience to make it happen. An experienced DJ is more than just a voice urging your guests out on the dance floor; a good DJ has the expertise and the play list to make it happen. Lean on that expertise; while you may hate a certain genre of music, a good playlist is key to getting and keeping your wedding guests on the dance floor.

Make an entrance.

If you want to get the “joint jumping”—or in this case, set the mood for a great wedding reception—start with your plans for the time before the wedding dance. Plan a fantastic entrance into the wedding reception (we’ve given you ideas for a fun wedding reception entrance here). Make your guests look forward to the dance by creating a high energy atmosphere before your guests hit the dance floor.

Hit the dance floor yourself.

Want your guests on the dance floor? Lead by example. Hit the dance floor yourself and bring a few friends.

Don’t make them leave the dance floor.

Minimize the amount of times your guests leave the dance floor because they might not return. Make sure your first dance or father-daughter (or mother-son) dance doesn’t go too long. An experienced DJ can also use the right songs and announcements to get everyone back out dancing.

Give your guests a dance lesson.

To get your guests out on the dance floor, give them a reason. Hire a dance instructor to give your wedding guests a dance lesson that they’ll want to flock to.

Be very careful when you compile your ‘Do not play’ list.

A good DJ should ask for songs you want played and songs you do not want played at the reception. As tempting as it might be to make a list a mile long, too many songs on that list can hurt your attendance on the dance floor. Some of those wedding song classics that make your skin crawl are also what draw your guests to the dance floor.

Surprise your guests.

Make your guests want to see what all the fuss is about out on the dance floor. Use a surprise like a celebrity impersonator, team mascot, or confetti (more ideas for wedding reception surprises in this blog post) to get your wedding guests on the dance floor—and keep them there.

How to Compile the Perfect Wedding ‘Do Not Play’ List

guests dancing to wedding djThe list of most commonly banned wedding songs just came out, and, not surprisingly, some American favorites (sorry Chicken Dance!) are on the list. There are also a few takeaways that you can use as you craft the perfect wedding Do Not Play list for your DJ.

Choose a DJ that asks for your “must not play” list.

It’s fairly common for DJ’s to ask for Do Not Play lists, but don’t assume that all DJ’s are equal. Ask your DJ if they can honor your do-not-requests, and listen to those warning bells that go off in your head if they cannot customize their play list to your specific tastes. Vet your choice for DJ carefully, and look for these red flags to make sure you and your guests have a good time.

Don’t make your list too long.

As much as you may hate all those hokey songs (yes, YMCA and Macarena, we’re talking about you), remember those are the classics that get people on to the dance floor. The takeaway: while some of those songs may make your hair stand on end, be prepared to make exceptions for certain songs that your DJ can use to get your guests out on the dance floor.

Know your audience.

As much as this is your wedding, realize that you may need to keep certain songs off your Do Not Play list that your friends or relatives absolutely love. For example, if you come from a family that’s proud of their German heritage, you may need to keep polkas off your Do Not Play list and move a few to the Do Play list so your family can get in a few dance moves. Or if you hate country music, but you know your friends love it, look for a few songs that you don’t absolutely despise for their sake. Ask your DJ for recommendations if you need help with this process.

Use these common ‘do not play’ songs to start your list.

There are some songs that are absolutely annoying, and other songs that are incredibly inappropriate for your wedding. Know the difference; you don’t want your wedding reception to be incredibly awkward for everyone. If you’re looking for absolutely annoying, here are a few songs (or kinds of music) that couples should exclude:

  • Heavy metal (there are a few exceptions)
  • “My Heart Will Go On”-Celine Dion
  • Hard-core gangsta rap
  • Many “boy band” songs
  • “I touch myself” – Divinyls
  • “You’re so Vain” – Carly Simon
  • “Love Stinks” – The J. Geils Band
  • “Tainted Love” – Soft Cell
  • “My Humps” – Black Eyed Peas

Remember, when you’re choosing your DJ, you chose them for a reason; hopefully that’s their expertise. Your Do Not Play list doesn’t have to be a million pages. Trust your DJ to know what’s inappropriate and what works; if you have any doubts, it’s time to add your DJ to your Do Not Play list and find a new one.

Wedding Guests Requests: Fun Ways to Make it Happen

wedding where they take requestsPersonalizing song requests is a fun way to make your wedding more fun for your guests. Everyone loves to hear (and hopefully dance to) their favorite song, so why not make it reality for your guests? The first step is to choose a DJ that can take requests, then use these ways to make it happen—and have fun with the fun requests!

Add a line to your wedding RSVP.

Take your guests’ song requests before your big day; add a line on your wedding RSVP cards for guests to put in their song title and artist. You can use standard language or be creative with it. If you are hosting a vintage wedding, use slang terms from your chosen era to play into your theme, like “your favorite hits to play on our turntable.” Make sure you add their requests to the “must play list” you give to your DJ.

Make a sign.

If you don’t have room on your invite, or you’d rather take requests on the night of your wedding, make a sign that goes with your décor. Place it on a table near the DJ (but not too near, you don’t want guests to spill their drinks on their state-of-the-art equipment!). You can even add the ‘rules of requests,’ such as don’t expect the song to play immediately, no drinking by the DJ (your DJ will appreciate this!), and keep it clean (if you have kids attending!).

Add it to your table activities.

Some couples choose to add trivia cards to their table décor, others ask for their guests’ best wedding advice. For another twist, add a fun request form to your table. Make sure you ask your DJ (your emcee!) to let your guests know the form is there and what to do with their requests once they have them written out.

Set up an interactive song request.

If incorporating a hashtag for your big day isn’t enough techie for you, set up an interactive song request for your guests. Give your guests a way to use their smart phones and tablets to send in their requests both before and during your wedding. Remember, though, if you ask for their request, you have to put up with whatever songs come your way; song requests should come with a ‘at risk’ sign.

Tips for Getting the Most out of Your DJ

wedding DJ equipment at wedding receptionWedding planning can be exciting, overwhelming, exhilarating and, at times, fun. It can also feel a little crazy at times when you’re trying to get more…more atmosphere, more wedding planning tasks checked off, more for your money. That’s why we’ve put together tips that can help you accomplish all three of these “mores”—at least where your DJ is concerned.

Be aware of the ‘give and take’ when hiring a DJ.

If you want to take advantage of all the perks of hiring a DJ, you need to give to make the most of their services. Give your wedding DJ information such as the numbers of other vendors (so they can coordinate on the day of), name pronunciations, any sound volume restrictions, songs you want and don’t want played. Be careful if your DJ doesn’t ask for this information or do anything with it.

Look for a package deal.

Packaging wedding services more can be helpful in two ways: financially and task organization. It’s more for less financially, as they say. Getting more from your DJ, such as lighting and other entertainment, in a package deal can save you time searching for other vendors that can provide the same services. Don’t be shy to ask about any extras that can be included, or search for companies that offer services that you want packaged.

Choose a DJ that goes the extra mile.

If you want to get the most out of your wedding DJ, search for a DJ that does more than just play music. Ask your wedding DJ about their experience coordinating with other vendors. Quality DJs can coordinate their services with your venue, photographer, videographer, and any other wedding vendors so you can get the most out of your wedding DJ service.

Don’t just hire a wedding DJ.

When emergencies happen, you don’t want to have to search for another DJ or equipment—and you certainly don’t want to pay for more. To get the most out of your DJ, look for a wedding DJ with a back-up plan: another experienced wedding DJ and equipment plan for those ‘just in case’ situations. Hiring a professional with a professional back-up gives you peace of mind—and two wedding DJs for the price of one.

DJ, Band, or DIY Wedding Music: Pros & Cons of Your Wedding Entertainment Options

bride excited about wedding entertainment choiceThere’s so much on the line when it comes to wedding planning! You want your guests to have a good time and enjoy themselves, all the while juggling the process and the budget. Sometimes it can feel like a vice is squeezing your head; there are so many options for food, venues, and entertainment. For the latter, there are three common main entertainment options: a band, wedding DJ, or do-it-yourself music (along with a million cool ‘other’ entertainment options). Before you despair over which wedding option is right for your big day (and to preempt a panic attack!), we’ve put together the pros and cons to help you make your big decision on wedding entertainment option easier (for more info, send us a message-we can help!) so you can move on to that next big wedding planning decision.

Band

Pros: Perfect fit for vintage weddings (both in song list and attire), uses professional equipment, great live entertainment experience for guests, can emcee during dinner and the dance

Cons: Usually most expensive wedding entertainment option, often doesn’t have ‘plan B’ if emergency comes up (i.e. band member gets sick, equipment breaks, etc.), usually doesn’t offer extras such as lighting, can’t always play all the songs you want

Wedding DJ

Pros: Can provide soft dinner music and emcee reception dinners, DJ can coordinate with venue and vendors for special moments, offers extras (i.e. lighting, trivia, photo booths, etc.), professional expertise to keep people on the dance floor, often more affordable than bands, uses professional equipment, SHOULD have back-up equipment and DJ in case of emergency, personalized play list

Cons: More expensive than DIY music, crappy DJs can put a damper on your big day (signs of a bad DJ here)

DIY Music

Pros: Very affordable, play list can be built specifically to your taste

Cons: No ‘plan B’ if equipment doesn’t work, not played with quality equipment, requires time before and on day to organize and keep music going, no emcee for dinner or special events (i.e. couple entrance, first dance, etc.), takes time away from enjoying wedding if equipment or speakers break or need attention

8 WOW-Worthy Ways to Enter Your Wedding Reception

wedding dance floor with deejayYou’ve gone to great lengths to make your wedding reception extra special—the DJ, cake, venue, the works—now it’s time to grab another opportunity: your entrance into your wedding reception.

Arrive via boat, motorcycle, or helicopter

If a unique entrance is your thing, and you’re known for your love of motors and/or air, make your entrance one that everyone’ll remember. If your venue is on the water, pull up in a pontoon boat to the pier. For a dramatic air entrance, step off of a helicopter or air drop into a flat area next to your venue. If you love motorcycles, arrive on your favorite bike (with cans out back for a fun effect?!) with a sign that says ‘Just married!’ No matter what kind of unique entrance you choose, make sure you bring your DJ into the act; they can make an announcement that herds your guests to greet you.

Roll out the red carpet

Perfectly suited for a vintage or Hollywood-themed wedding, a red carpet rolled out seconds before your grand entrance makes a statement. For extra effect, add a spotlight, group of paparazzi photographers swarming the red carpet to take pictures, and music selected by your DJ that puts your red carpet entrance over the top.

Sparklers

For an outdoor wedding, sparklers can give you a fantastic visual entrance (and some pretty spectacular photos!). Make sure you exercise caution so your fireworks entrance doesn’t turn into a fire or a trip to the emergency room (both memorable, but not the pleasant angle you’re going for).

Balloon or confetti drop

If sparklers aren’t possible but you still want all the flare, ask your DJ to coordinate music with your venue lighting system. Turn out the lights (with or without music) to build suspense. When the lights come back on, coordinate the perfectly-timed balloon or confetti drop for full BIG effect.

Acrobats

Are you a couple who has a flare for the dramatic? Hire a DJ that has the music selection to make this entrance over the top, and the acrobats that can make your guests flip over your dramatic entrance.

Line dance

Play into your country-themed wedding with a line dance entrance. This entrance takes a bit of “people coordination.” You’ll need to rehearse with your wedding party before hand to pull it off, and talk to your DJ so he/she has the right tunes ready for your hoe-down, but the right entrance justifies your entrance.

Finish lines

Love to push each other in a weekend marathon or 5K? Have fun with it. Give your bridal party finish lines and have them make you work through the line, or have some fun seeing who can win in your fun reception race. Ask your DJ to get your guests into the act and cheering you on with the right race music that’ll pump everyone up.

6 ‘Other’ Ways to Entertain Your Wedding Reception Guests

wedding guests in photo booth with silly hats and funny facesEveryone loves a good wedding dance, but sometimes it takes more than just a rocking wedding reception to keep your guests entertained. Use these ideas to keep everyone enjoying your wedding dance—even the non-dancers.

Table trivia

For those who don’t want to venture out on the dance floor, give them trivia cards customized about the couple or the theme of the reception (i.e. history questions about the 20’s, your city, movies, etc.) Get your DJ in the act with fun trivia music and announcing the winners and their rewards (i.e. the right to head up to the buffet first, door prizes, extra drink, etc.)

Photo booth

Give your guests a chance to have fun AND take home a memento from a great wedding reception. Use these tips for choosing the perfect photo booth, then take your photo booth props to the next level by choosing props that are connected to your wedding reception theme.

Yard games

If you’re hosting an outdoor wedding, give your guests a good corn hole toss, lawn bowling, ring toss, or ladder ball game to take on. For a wedding reception with a more indoor designation, bring your yard games inside or add fun options like a foosball or pool table.

Coloring station

Your youngest guests are going to love a coloring station meant just for them—and their parents will thank you too. In addition to coloring pages, add a simple craft that won’t cause too much of a mess (to the kids and their clothes).

Interactive food station

An interactive food station has two major benefits: 1) it’s a major draw and 2) it keeps your guests fueled and ready to head out on the dance floor. Choose a food station that’s tied into your location or theme for the ultimate coordinated entertainment addition.

Caricature artist

A caricature artist can be a novel addition to any wedding reception line-up. Perfect for an outdoor carnival theme, a caricature artist can be a major draw when your guests need a break from the dance floor.

7 Memorable Wedding Reception Surprises Your Guests’ll Never Forget

scene of bride and groom just married after a smooth wedding dayWant to make your wedding stand out from the crowd? Great wedding grub, a personalized theme…it all makes a statement, but a really good wedding surprise sends your wedding reception guests over the top. That’s why we’ve compiled a list of spectacular wedding surprises that’s sure to make your special day a wedding reception your guests aren’t going to forget any time soon.

Plan a surprise first dance with your new spouse

Dance lessons are a great way to put your best foot forward at your wedding reception—especially if your dance is really unique. If you have a theme, plan a dance that coordinates with for a fun way to tie together your details. Whatever kind of fun step you come up with, make sure you choose a wedding DJ who can build up to your first dance and give it the special attention it deserves.

A free fall

Confetti. Balloons. Rose petals. Stir up excitement with a surprise drop of confetti or balloons during your wedding reception (with your venue’s permission, of course!). Ask your DJ for the perfect song that fits with the surprise drop.

Make a creative entrance

Surprise your audience with an entrance that’ll surprise your guests. Ask your DJ for ideas; you can enter amidst the glow of sparklers (again, with your venue’s permission), with a flash mob, from a flash of smoke, or appear in the middle of the room after the lights go out.  Make it fun!

Invite a surprise guest

Give your guests something to talk about: a surprise guest. Talk to your DJ about stirring up your crowd as they buzz about the ultimate entrance of a celebrity impersonator (that fits with your vintage wedding or theme), your school mascot, or a surprise friend or family member that no one expects.

Dance lessons…for your guests!

Don’t keep the fun of dance lessons to yourselves; hire a dance instructor to give a group lesson to your guests. For a country wedding, hire a DJ who can play the perfect song while the dance instructor gives line dance lessons. If you’re planning a vintage wedding, have an instructor teach a classic dance to your guests. By the end of the night, you’ll have your own flash mob.

Photo booth props

Be REALLY creative! Use our list of photo booth props, or have crazy fun with your choices. Your choices not only give your guests something fun to do when they’re not on the dance floor (use these tips for awesome photo booth fun), but they create a buzz among your guests.

Fireworks (if allowed, of course!)

Fireworks are the ultimate surprise—if you can keep it under wraps. If your plan is to watch fireworks inside, ask your DJ to play music that coordinates up to your big boom.

5 Wedding Playlist Mistakes to Avoid

disco balls from a wedding danceYour wedding reception music can either keep your guests on the floor or make them run out the door. We’ve given you tips on crafting the perfect wedding playlists before; now we’re doing the opposite and giving you mistakes to avoid so your wedding reception isn’t a complete flop.

Hiring a DJ who doesn’t customize.

This is your wedding. While there is something to be said for leaving the important decisions to the experts, you should have some input into the songs that are played for your guests.  For example, if you have a traditional German family, you may want some polkas included in your wedding playlist.  Don’t hire a DJ who doesn’t ask for your input.  Those are usually the DJs that use a standard playlist (and can’t even accommodate your guests’ requests!)—and your wedding should be anything but standard. This is your big night; use these questions to vet your DJs and hire the right DJ that creates a custom playlist for your big day.

Not giving your DJ any options.

We all have songs that give us the same sensation as hearing nails on a chalkboard.  That being said, you don’t want to add so many songs to the ‘do not play’ list (yes, your DJ should ask you for this list) that your DJ can’t play any of your guests’ favorite songs.

Putting too many songs on the ‘must play’ list.

Be realistic when you put together your wedding reception playlist.  Ask your DJ how many songs they can play so you’re not disappointed. Give your DJ a list of “we really, really want” and another list of “these songs may or may not get played.”  To ensure that really special songs make it to the top, give your DJ a short explanation of why they are important (and let the DJ know if they can share it at the reception!).

Thinking you can handle it all by yourself.

As much as you think you can handle DIY wedding reception music, think over your decision carefully.  While it’s true you can customize your wedding playlist, you also have to find the time to compile the list, invest in good equipment, and deal with any headaches if your equipment breaks down.  That list doesn’t even include finding someone who is willing to give up a night of fun to run the equipment.

Being too risqué in your music.

As much as you love that song, you don’t want to hear from your friends and family for days and weeks about the songs that traumatized their kids.  For the most part, make sure your music is PG-13 and songs that your guests want to dance too (or hire an excellent wedding DJ that’s done this before).  Trust us, your guests will thank you if you do.

4 Steps to Choosing & Hiring Your Wedding DJ

wedding dance floor with deejayOnce you’ve decided that a DJ is your best bet for wedding entertainment, it’s time to do the tough work: finding and choosing the right wedding DJ that keeps your guests on the floor all night.  The good news is that the process is easier—and harder—than you think.  That’s why we’ve compiled this simple list of steps that connect you with the right DJ for your wedding reception.

Do your research.

It’s time to let your fingers do the work: use the internet to make a list of DJs near you.  Browse through their website and social media sites to determine if they have any experience as wedding DJs (there is a difference between a wedding and corporate event DJ!).

You can also ask friends that have been married recently, or have attended a lot of weddings, for recommendations.  A frequent wedding guest can let you know what DJs they enjoyed dancing to—and what DJs gave a lackluster performance.

Ask questions in your first email or call.

Use your time efficiently; get your list of DJs narrowed down to the few that it makes sense to actually meet with.  Ask each DJ if they are available on your wedding day and, if so, if they have any references you can contact and their fees.  Add the information to your list, but don’t use price as the most important deciding factor.  As much as you want to save money and stay within your wedding budget, low-priced DJs are usually too good to be true.  Make sure your wedding night is a memorable night that your friends are talking about for years; hire a quality DJ who customizes their play list to who you are a couple and has the equipment to back it up. (Look out for these signs of a subpar DJ as you screen DJs.)

Meet them.

The best way to get your list from many to one is by setting up a meeting.  When you go, be prepared. Ask these questions to determine if this DJ is right for you (as a bonus, ask if you can see the equipment!).

  • “Do you have a lot of experience as a wedding DJ?”
  • “Do you offer any services, such as lighting, photo booth or any other entertainment options?” (Helpful if you want to get a package deal and don’t have to make too many calls for each aspect of entertainment!)
  • “Can you do….(Insert special request here)?”
  • “If our reception runs late, are there any overtime fees?”
  • “When is the deposit due? How much?”
  • “Is there a travel fees for getting to my venue?”
  • “Do you have insurance? Can I get proof?”
  • “What if there is an emergency? What if I need to cancel?”
  • “How often should we plan on meeting with you?”
  • “Do you offer phone or web meetings in case we can’t come in person?”
  • “What happens if your equipment breaks down or your DJ is unable to come?”
  • “What time to do you arrive at the reception?”
  • “Do you provide dinner music as part of the cost?”
  • “What information do you need from me? When do you need it?”
  • “What will the DJ be wearing?”
  • “Does your DJ make announcements as an emcee at the reception?”
  • “What is the best way to contact you as we plan our wedding?”

Review their terms.

Go with your first instinct, but make sure you understand any papers before you sign them.  There may be cancellation policies, fees, or unpleasant surprises you don’t want to find out about later.  It’s all part of making the wedding planning process—and your wedding reception—the best experience possible.